Balancing Positive & Negative

Balancing Positive & Negative Emotional Attractors to better myself.

How to be better ? Learning Exercise:

Part 1:

I try to listen to things people have said I should change to be better.

Just thinking about all those countless times, when I have been told by people around me, on personal or professional level, makes me realise that it all comes down to the very same “Should do Less of” “Should change” and “Should Not do”  thing.

Endless times in many situations around the world by different people I get the very same advice;

1. “I should not care too much”
2. “I should not take it too personal”
3. “Should not try for perfection”
4. “I should not think to deep”
5. “I should not do others job because I care so much”

From these people perspective If i didn’t care as much as I do, I would get more productive I would not lose time on perfecting everything to the smallest detail. And most importantly I would not get stressed, worried or overworked. But Would that really make me a better person? Could I truly get satisfied with work that it is not done to its best? Could I accept myself if I didn’t care as much?

Part 2:

When I was At my best: 

And honestly if i think of the time when i was at my best, happy, excited, content and effective at home and work. Wondering Just how different was my behaviour and my attitude at that period of my life?

I have been very focused I remember, i also have been promoted couple of times at work within short period of time. I was mindful and positive in various ways and situations. Remembering now, that I observed people I worked with a lot , people on the bus, people i socialised with, I tried to understand everyone. I tried to understand people who did Not like me, I tried to understand my mum. I wanted to understand what people go thru in their lives and how they get effected by everything they experience. I was honest and good in my heart. I only saw the good in others. My boss too! I ignored or did not acknowledge anything negative. To a negative behaviour  or negative comments I responded in most positive ways. And looking back, yes I didn’t think too deep into it and I didn’t take it too personal. I was empathetic and compasioned. So I didn’t get infected by negativism at all. Because I wasn’t focused on myself, I wasn’t the centre of my own world or universe. So if someone was negative towards me, it was not happening to me – it was happening to them. It only showed me where they were at. And I could take a time and think of their reaction, their feelings, the situation they are in, their reasons for their actions and comments. It almost sounds like a superpower!  While making this analyse of the time at my best, listing my behaviours, attitudes, remembering those moments, remembering how it felt. I now see how simple it was and I can practise daily to be at my best again and stay at my best.

Try it yourself and please share your thoughts:

1. Make a list of things people have said you should change to be better.
2. Think of times you were at your best, when you were excited and effective at home or work.
3. Make a list of the behavior, attitudes, or perspectives you used in those events.
4. How did it feel while you were making this list?
5. How did it feel while you were remembering these moments?

10 Things I learnt when Stuck in an Airport

1. Don’t make friends they will take off in next 1 hour or so And leave you behind
2. You will see lots of suspicious behaviour and many terrorist looking-like people
3. You will learn there is such a thing as power pillars where you can charge your phone (see picture bellow)
4. You will realise there is not many shops on checking side of the airport
5. You will learn Chinese people never travel light
6. The best place to just wait around would be a Starbucks if you could get a seat
7. You will reply to all your emails and Facebook messages
8. You will go thru all your applications looking for any kind of entertainment
9. You will call everyone you can think of just to share your drama and chit chat
10. You will write a list of  ”Things to Do when Stuck in an Airport”

#YouArePowerful

It is your presence that changes reality

You just need to show up

Cattroubles

Let me Introduce you to my Big Small Family

My Cattroubles:

 

1st trouble

Brown Persian Female

DOLLY 

The Queen Mother

with Gorgeous Green Eyes & Wise-Woman Vibe

Very Loyal Smart Loving cat

 

2nd trouble

Black Beauty Persian Male

TUBBY

The Miserable FatBoy

Stubborn with little temper tantrums

Also Very Talented and Very Photogenic

 

3rd trouble

Scotishfold White Female

RASPBERRY 

Delicate tiny girl with autistic behavior

Special Characteristic :

Always with her tongue sticking out

 

4th trouble

British Short Hair

KOFFY 

Big Baby inside Big-Boy-Body

A handsome Gentleman -  BlueEyed

Cafe-late-Color Male

With Big Hearth and way too much Energy

 

One is Easy

Two are just so Funny

Third is a Big Surprise

Fourth a Sweet Gift

Must Love Cats

Yes, it’s a Must.

Not One – Not Two – Not Three

But Four

C A T S !!

Yes Four Cats. Shocking ?

I know! It does shock me every time I say it.

Still to this day I cannot believe it. Four Cats !!

That is this many :

How did it Happened?

I mean, I’ve been a huge animal lover all my childhood bringing home all living things I could find – from street dogs, lost dogs, big dogs, small dogs to birds, parrots & hamsters – those I got from my Uncle’s Pet shop every time I came to see him there. Today, I understand, it was just His way to tease his sister – my Mum ! But in my eyes, He was the best uncle I had, i saw him as someone as Mowgli – Wild boy raised by the Wolf Pack, friend with all other wild animals – talking their language. How cool is that! Then I grow up and somehow grow out of it.

Since I left my Parents House (with one family dog in household) I knew I would never like to have a pet myself. Yup, never. And I didn’t have one for many years .. So how did I end up with 4 cats being a dog-person?

The first two (mother & son – Dolly & Tubby) came as a package with my boyfriend (Awww .. I know, how sweet!) And I have completely fallen in love with those two fluffy little souls, spoiling them with all cats-yummy-food & all cats-fun-toys. I became one of those people who belive that their pets actually talk. And Believe Me, My Cats really do! So After couple of years, When We’ve moved to our new apartment, I had to look for new pet shop, in my new area where I could regularly get everything I need for my babies. And I have found one, the problem was this Shop not only had all the food needed, great selection of toys and scratches, bowls, brushes, products & all kind of accessories ..

They have Pets! Cats! Kittens! Many! All over the place! So cute!

Not that I needed more cats, no way! I already had Two. That was already more than enough! I would not even think of having more, unthinkable! Besides that my Cats were the most Beautiful out of all of them of course! Within few weeks, coming often to this pet shop just to get whatever was needed for my spoiled babies, I have created a friendly relation with the Shop Owner. Frank. (even tho he looks more like a Felix to me, wonder why?) Smart man figured out what i thought was well hidden my soft side for cats. Or me just talking about them like they are my kids it’s kind of giving it away.. He could sell me anything he needed to sell, from treats to toys to baskets to whole playgrounds. I would always stop at the front part of his shop with new kittens for sale just to stroke and adore them.

One day Me and my Boyfriend came to get Cat’s Food and as We waited for Frank to come back from his stoke room, I have spotted something very colorful toy like at the bottom shelf at the very back of his shop. Curiously I went to cluttered corner to see what those thing were, and as I squat and stare at all those stuff piled onto shelves .. Something just moved fast and a little white head pops out with a little tongue sticking of its little mouth looking at me with those baby innocent dark eyes.

Me: “Oh My God! That is so Cute! the Cutest Thing I ever seen !!”

I couldn’t really say what kind of animal that was, my closest guess would be an Owl, Snow Owl. Frank was back (just on time) he picked her up and put her in my arms: 

Frank: “Scottish Fold Breed – Because of Folded Ears”

 

Now, I can see she is a cat, but: ”Why is she not for sale with all other kittens?”

 

Frank: ”She is for Sale! but she is a little old now, she is 4-5 months already, all her brothers and sister was sold within first few weeks .. no one wants her, everyone thinks there is something wrong with her because of her tongue sticking out”

My Boyfriend Laughed: ” She looks like blowing raspberries!”

All I heard was – no one wants her, everyone thinks there is something wrong with her – I fallen in Love Immediately.

I faced my Boyfriend: 

“Is she Destined to grow up as a ShopCat just because She is Different? What is wrong with people? She deserves to be Loved as much as all other kittens! Anyway Don’t you think our Tubby would like a Girlfriend to play with?”

He Look at me confused: ”Huh? No. Really?  You cannot be serious. Can I just Remind you, we Do have Two cats at home already.”

Me: “I am sure they both would love Raspberry”

Boyfriend: ”Raspberry ?”

I nodded in a way like She is already mine little weirdo and I’m gonna protect her no matter what. 

My boyfriend just being the best boyfriend ever, never saying No to me (and I Love him so much!): ”Ok Frank, we take her.”

Frank smiles :“Good! 6000 HKD Pedigree Cat”

My Boyfriend: “Ah whatever ! I pay for cat that no-one wants, great!”

And that was it, paid – Cat in the Bag !!

 That is How the 3rd One Happened to Us.

 Our Little Angel Raspberry.

The Eagle Pose

I Bend my knees slightly, lift my left foot up and cross it thigh over the right. Point my left toes toward the floor, then hook the top of the foot behind the lower right calf. Now I balance on the right foot. Cross my arms so the right arm is above the left and then bend my elbow. I wind them around each other and press palms together. Now Standing and Balancing in

E A G L E 

Easy, I can do this! I am now the king of the birds!

I feel strength & focus in my eagle spirit.

I have turned into an Eagle, Rising above the all material to see the spiritual.

Just When My master says: 

“Now come out of your pose and change the cross of the Legs” 

I relax and mentally prepare myself for changing my legs. I start very slowly because I don’t trust my left foot. While I’m just slowly bending my knee – I notice the whole studio room is full of perfect still eagles balancing on left foot like they were all eagle egg hatched! I panic. That’s where my head gets full of thoughts and I start talking to myself in my head:

“Oh Great! You just lost your focus! Come on! You can do this!

Concentrate; do not compare yourself to those other Birds!

Take a deep inhale –  focus – You standing now – exhale – keep it Balanced

Ok, ok .. let me do this, just stop talking to me please!”

I’m now Balancing on my left foot I cross my arms in reversed order, then… Expected happened: my Left foot let me down and I flew my Eagle with all its ability to see hidden spiritual truths right out of my pose. Well, I may not have Eagle qualities, but the good news is strong Eagles aren’t born, they’re made. And with Eagle’s Determination I keep practicing to become a better Eagle. 

This is a lesson learnt from Skilled and Fearless Eagle: Work smarter, not harder.

Eagle Pose Benefits

• Strengthens and stretches the ankles and calves
• Stretches the thighs, hips, shoulders, and upper back
• Improves concentration
• Improves sense of balance

Fasten Seatbelt

Here I am. Happy. On Plane. Yes! Again.
And this is not ”please don’t hate me coz I’m busy jetting around the world” post.
I just have this plane-side of me.
I love being on plane. And I am not talking about excitement for my destination or some fascination for planes . No.
I just enjoy being on plane. I enjoy the time I spend on it. It makes me Relax.
Doesn’t matter where am I flying to. I Switch off completely as soon as I get seated on plane.
With instructions to turn off all electronic devices I Switch off too.
I know it’s a little weird.
Boarding plane, means my time to Relax.
Today Time to Destination: 14 hours and 20 minutes.
Perfect !! This is my time !!
I know most people don’t like flying and definitely cannot see plane as a place to Relax.

I think my feeling comes from the fact that i have No control over anything as soon as I fasten my seatbelt. It’s my time to let go ..
When I get on plane, all my tasks, daily duties, worries and problems stay on the ground.
Because once I take off I have no power over any of those things.

I cannot deal with situations left down here, unable to call to solve something or send an email to sort an issue that needs attention at that time.
So I try to make most of it! I let go & Relax.